Family

My family puts the FUN in dysfunctional.

It's messed up.

Today there was a get-together to say 'goodbye' to a cousin who is moving to the midwest, and I am humbled, deeply humbled by the whole process.

The system works!

God (and the Goddess) had this crazy idea to throw us into these family units--where we--many of us Lightworkers--were thrown into the 'Lion's Den' if you will, the very worst places on the planet, To Shed Light.

Today I saw how my cousins and uncles were older...the ones I used to see every Christmas Eve and at family functions. And I thought, 'God, you were so smart to give Cousins, so I can see what the road is like ahead of where I am.'

Today I saw how darkness transformed to Light...there were several people who had hurt one another in various ways, incest, physical abuse, alcohol, gambling, infidelity...who had found peace with each other and the abusers had healed!

I found out one incest abuser had actually paid the rent, bought groceries, and traded cars (taking over the car payments) of the one he had abused and her new husband for six months when they were starting out. They wouldn't have made it without him.

Another who had been a physical abuser and made his kids pass out in a pool of blood in the bathroom on a routine basis, had tenderly cared for the wife dying of cancer, and earned the love and respect of the children and the whole family. He'd changed, in his heart, mind, body and soul and had grown. He asked, casually, how he had been so lucky to marry her, the wife who was an angel, an earth angel, in every way...

The one who cheated on his wife, and left her for another woman, only to have his ex, the one we knew, die of ovarian cancer? He married the one he had the relationship with, and now she is family, and has found work for two of the deceased wife's kids at her work. I could see how sometimes relationships change, and both partners have to move on to keep up with their soul lessons; it really is not personal, although it is painful to experience when you are the one that is being left.

I found out a cure for leg cramps is V-8 juice, Tums and ibuprofen. Many of my relatives are very active. One rode a sixty-mile bike ride earlier in the day.

But most importantly, I saw my cousins who have been in the movie industry for their entire careers, and are NOT worshipping the devil, or any of those bad things that so many of them do. They are good, decent people who love God and are perhaps a little 'more religious' than others, as far as being Christian go, but not more so than others I know who are Christian extreme worshippers.

If you are from a not-so-good family, have hope!

The family unit was selected with pre-birth contracts and agreement of everyone involved . Why? For the learning of lessons. Some are teachers, some are learners, and together it all works out. There is the karma 'payback' as well as the love that remains between after all is said and done.

Why not take a little break every now and then, talk to your heart, and find out what lessons your family has been helping your heart learn with you?

Because behind all that, is the wisdom of Source, and it is all for your Highest Good.

It's always darkest before the dawn...but soon the sun will come up, and you will see your family with bright new eyes that see!

I couldn't believe how much higher the vibration was of our group today; there was love, laughter, and sharing. People are really doing things for their health, like quit artificial sweeteners, try organic, eat less meat, or whatever 'nudges' them to do. We have come a long ways as a family, and I am excited I had the chance to see it today.

I have to be honest with you. Today I really didn't want to go. I like staying at my house and relaxing on the weekends. I didn't want to get dressed and drive to go and see people I hardly ever see.

But I checked with pendulum.

It said, GO. It is for the highest good.

So I went.

It turns out my cousin's fiancee has a daughter with terrible neurological condition. And the shunt isn't working. So the surgeon is going to try switching from a ventriculoperitoneal (head to stomach drain for CSF) to a ventriculoatrial shunt (head to heart for CSF). He'd only done two, in his career, and was really worrying her.

I explained what I had seen, and I knew it works, and it's something doable, and not to worry.

She was visibly relieved! I hadn't seen her in eight years!

That's why Spirit wanted me to go.



Aloha and mahalos,
Namaste,

Reiki Doc

Love Takes No Hostages

I watched the movie Caffe De Flore one week ago. It was an 'assignment' from a psychic friend to help me 'sort out' my Twin Flame situation.

Basically, the hero of the movie leaves one Twin Flame for another Twin Flame. It's brutal on the First Twin, and I strongly identified with her as she went through the grieving process only a Twin Flame can experience.

In the movie, the man, who has married his high school sweetheart because her goth ways ignited his DJ career and persona, starts to grow dissatisfied with his life. She is content and a good mother to their two daughters.

Here are some images that portray how he was starting to feel:

Then he saw 'her', Twin Flame number two. And he started to do this:

He chose 'her' over his wife.

'She' represents sexual freedom. He worships her body. I couldn't help but notice how thin and smooth and soft she was. She never had any children with that body. He fought with her, she did cocaine, his daughter's lives were living hell, the ex-wife was damn near suicidal, his parents chastised him for his 'irresponsible behavior' at a family gathering, but he followed his genitals and sexual pleasure 'love', married her, then the ex-wife 'came around' and it was one great big happy French ending!

So here's the rub--

Who can feel sexy and make time for her man when life is like this?

Who made her life this way?

Why does her choice to be responsible to the children build resentment in him?

Why doesn't he help her instead of demand for 'his wife to give him sex'?

Wouldn't SHE want to screw around on the side too to get away from this life? It's not pleasant unless you have the love and support of your man.

An interesting thing is happening. Here are two quotes from a gossip magazine I found in the call room:

• Pals say the hunky singer (Tim McGraw), who once revealed that his secret to a long and happy marriage is to "just shut up", finally had enough of being compliant. "He is done dealing with Faith's controlling ways," the source continues, "He's made it clear that he doesn't know if he will ever put his ring back on."
• "Simon (Cowell) tells Lauren time and again that he will take care of her and of their child, no questions asked,"says a source, "He'll make sure Lauren has everything she could want--a home, money, luxury, attention. But he also made it very clear he isn't going to give up his friends for her. And that includes his female friends." --He considers fatherhood and domestic partnership two completely separate things.

How sad that marriage and love have come to this.

Love, True Love and Sexuality, is a gift from Heaven.

Your Lover allows you to 'see' the 'face of God' that they only have for you, and they see the 'face of God' that you only have for them. It helps you to get to know one another, as souls, and to Learn and Grow.

I am not in relationship because I have things to do--Spirit things. It is not forever although it is the only way and not my choice exactly but just the way it has to be done*.

But what about you who DO have the option to discover Relationship?

The ones who should be asking, 'should I stay or should I go?'

Well, the answer is the same as pretty much for everything--

• know yourself
• meditate
• raise your Vibration
• do the Four Agreements (#1--Be Impeccable With Your Word, #2--Don't Take Anything Personally, #3--Don't Make Assumptions, #4--Always Do Your Best) by Don Miguel Ruiz
• put yourself in your current partner's shoes, and mind the law of Karma

Then act on it.

As far as I'm concerned, websites like 'Give Her The D' and 'Don't Give Her The D' only perpetuate the misery of our current state of partnership, family, marriage...

To be honest, I love being a single mother. I have freedom and enjoy more of life and have less headaches from having to 'explain everything' to another adult. There's less meals to make, travel is cheaper, and I never have to worry about my baby daddy going out to cheat! He can have anyone he likes because I am not emotionally involved with him. It does make it very hard for me to find someone though, to have a kid to raise that's from somebody else. Guys are that way--it's baggage and it bothers them a great deal.

Sex and emotions are not separate. I know society tries to tell us that they are, but this is not the case. There is no one without the other.

I know one day things are going to make 'sense'. But until then, do the best you can to get by.

Aloha and Mahalos,

Namaste,

Reiki Doc

* -- Sensei Usui has explained this to me, I agree with this plan.

Angel Devil

I saw a sticker on the back window of a pickup before me that looked like this on before I got to work. The devil was on the left, and both looked hotter than even this image.

I never understood the appeal of having horns and  a tail...

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My friend Lola, who ran the willed body donation and also participated in a group to help others cross to the Light (souls 'stuck'), confided to me when I was a med student: she had never been faithful to any man her whole life.  Furthermore, her father had been a cheater, and she thought she must have inherited the 'cheating gene' from him...

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Dr. Jetson was the 'cute ski instructor and chef' a friend in high school met on a ski lift. I was surprised at the suddenness of it all, but she was happy. Ten years later I was surprised to learn I was Dr. Jetson's attending. He was the father of three kids! He had done something outrageous to get into the program--he cut a deal as a medical student to go outside the match. After pulling off THAT, he 'changed his mind' after the match and did a year on obstetrics, with the plan to become an OB-GYN. After internship, he changed his mind AGAIN, and went BACK into the anesthesia program.

After graduating as Chief Resident and starting work in the community, it turned out he had helped himself to the anesthesia narcotics the whole residency and had a serious problem. He was sent to rehab by his new anesthesia group.

His wife stood by him. Only to have him leave her for an x-ray tech at the new hospital he worked at after he graduated from the rehabilitation program.

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Dr. Fang was also a student of mine. However, he switched from anesthesia to general surgery. He liked livers, and was very involved in the liver transplant program.

We ended up at the same hospital after I left academics. He was devastated. His wife (a mutual friend and doc) was coming home late. She was cheating. With a real estate agent.

It was hard for me to hear. He used to work all hours, and she used to complain when I was with her that she was lonely and the kids needed a father. 'Why be married when I am like I am single?' she would ask.  Her parents lived with her, and that is how she was able to find someone else.

I didn't like it, how she hurt him, but I understood enough about the situation to remain friendly with both.

It wasn't until three years later, I learned the truth: he had been involved with the liver transplant coordinator while they were in residency (they had married in medical school). 

She kept confronting him. He kept denying it. She got anonymous letters and emails about his cheating--OFTEN--and finally she confronted him with 'there people don't care and feel the need to say something--is this cheating TRUE?'.  It was, and he swore to change, but he never did, so she left.

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Is doctor Fang a devil? I thought he was an angel when 'he was wronged'?

Guess what he shared today in the O.R.?

The Best Answer to the question Does Vegan Diet Heal Cirrhosis and Hepatitis C?

• The liver makes albumin, a protein, which helps with fluid balance
• If not enough albumin, then fluid collects in the gut, which is called 'ascites' (ass-sigh-tees)
• Liver makes antibodies and immune proteins
• Liver makes clotting factors
• Liver makes glycogen, a sugar storehouse of energy that lasts twenty-four hours
• Liver metabolizes drugs and proteins.
• When liver is cirrhotic, it can't process amino acids with a benzene ring structure--these are false neurotransmitters. They build up, and cause hepatic encephalopathy (mental deterioration). In vegetarians there are none of these proteins that are found in meat, and the encephalopathy does not occur.
• Without meat, the diseased liver does not make albumin. The patient is malnourished, and develops ascites. Therefore vegan and vegetarian diet makes poor health with respect to albumin and immunoglobulins and clotting factors and drug metabolism.
• The liver needs to eat. The digested nutrients that are absorbed in the gut go through the portal vein straight into the liver. Patients who are on long-term TPN (i.v. or 'parenteral' nutrition) have the liver eventually 'go bad' on them.

Is doctor Fang an angel now for answering the question?

How about this: the patient is an HMO. He gets paid for every six months the patient sees him, whether it is for an office visit, a hospital stay, or more. The surgery that he did when he was with me recently, a risky one on a cirrhotic, was FREE.

He took on all that risk because 'he never bases his clinical decisions on the patient insurance'.

It was elective surgery.

I wonder if I got compensated for my work too?

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There are no cheaters in Heaven. There are no cheaters in Heaven-On-Earth, which is about to happen after the Event.

Why?

Because our auras interact. We pick up a 'vibe' of someone's 'intent'. Cheaters are so 'stinky' in their cheatin' hearts that everyone can 'smell a rat' from a long ways off.

No one will get hurt by cheaters.

And everyone will be angels. Whether they like it or not! LOL

Angel romantic adventure is incredible!  The energy is amazing and totally new. 

Or so I hear ; ) 

(coughs to change the subject--AWKWARD!)

How about a little Sublime? I grew up in the LBC. This video is the story of my neighborhood...I did all of that and more...LOL ; )

Namaste,

Reiki Doc