Love Takes No Hostages

I watched the movie Caffe De Flore one week ago. It was an 'assignment' from a psychic friend to help me 'sort out' my Twin Flame situation.

Basically, the hero of the movie leaves one Twin Flame for another Twin Flame. It's brutal on the First Twin, and I strongly identified with her as she went through the grieving process only a Twin Flame can experience.

In the movie, the man, who has married his high school sweetheart because her goth ways ignited his DJ career and persona, starts to grow dissatisfied with his life. She is content and a good mother to their two daughters.

Here are some images that portray how he was starting to feel:

Then he saw 'her', Twin Flame number two. And he started to do this:

He chose 'her' over his wife.

'She' represents sexual freedom. He worships her body. I couldn't help but notice how thin and smooth and soft she was. She never had any children with that body. He fought with her, she did cocaine, his daughter's lives were living hell, the ex-wife was damn near suicidal, his parents chastised him for his 'irresponsible behavior' at a family gathering, but he followed his genitals and sexual pleasure 'love', married her, then the ex-wife 'came around' and it was one great big happy French ending!

So here's the rub--

Who can feel sexy and make time for her man when life is like this?

Who made her life this way?

Why does her choice to be responsible to the children build resentment in him?

Why doesn't he help her instead of demand for 'his wife to give him sex'?

Wouldn't SHE want to screw around on the side too to get away from this life? It's not pleasant unless you have the love and support of your man.

An interesting thing is happening. Here are two quotes from a gossip magazine I found in the call room:

• Pals say the hunky singer (Tim McGraw), who once revealed that his secret to a long and happy marriage is to "just shut up", finally had enough of being compliant. "He is done dealing with Faith's controlling ways," the source continues, "He's made it clear that he doesn't know if he will ever put his ring back on."
• "Simon (Cowell) tells Lauren time and again that he will take care of her and of their child, no questions asked,"says a source, "He'll make sure Lauren has everything she could want--a home, money, luxury, attention. But he also made it very clear he isn't going to give up his friends for her. And that includes his female friends." --He considers fatherhood and domestic partnership two completely separate things.

How sad that marriage and love have come to this.

Love, True Love and Sexuality, is a gift from Heaven.

Your Lover allows you to 'see' the 'face of God' that they only have for you, and they see the 'face of God' that you only have for them. It helps you to get to know one another, as souls, and to Learn and Grow.

I am not in relationship because I have things to do--Spirit things. It is not forever although it is the only way and not my choice exactly but just the way it has to be done*.

But what about you who DO have the option to discover Relationship?

The ones who should be asking, 'should I stay or should I go?'

Well, the answer is the same as pretty much for everything--

• know yourself
• meditate
• raise your Vibration
• do the Four Agreements (#1--Be Impeccable With Your Word, #2--Don't Take Anything Personally, #3--Don't Make Assumptions, #4--Always Do Your Best) by Don Miguel Ruiz
• put yourself in your current partner's shoes, and mind the law of Karma

Then act on it.

As far as I'm concerned, websites like 'Give Her The D' and 'Don't Give Her The D' only perpetuate the misery of our current state of partnership, family, marriage...

To be honest, I love being a single mother. I have freedom and enjoy more of life and have less headaches from having to 'explain everything' to another adult. There's less meals to make, travel is cheaper, and I never have to worry about my baby daddy going out to cheat! He can have anyone he likes because I am not emotionally involved with him. It does make it very hard for me to find someone though, to have a kid to raise that's from somebody else. Guys are that way--it's baggage and it bothers them a great deal.

Sex and emotions are not separate. I know society tries to tell us that they are, but this is not the case. There is no one without the other.

I know one day things are going to make 'sense'. But until then, do the best you can to get by.

Aloha and Mahalos,

Namaste,

Reiki Doc

* -- Sensei Usui has explained this to me, I agree with this plan.

Power Bait For S-E-X

I look at what websites refer to this blog. As a blogger, your blog generates stats, and I look at them.

One of the things that makes me scratch my head are the porn sites. What does this have to do with Reiki? I ask myself. And then, I let it go and admit, perhaps there is a reason, and these people need Reiki energy too? Everyone heals when they come to Doctors With Reiki. I bet Jesus would have gone to spend time with them. I smile at how funny this world can be, and let it go.

One caught my eye today. I will mis-spell it on purpose so they won't know what I am up to on their stats! It is The Dao of Bad-Donkey. (get it?)

It was fascinating. Someone who didn't realize it fully, has become somewhat of a misogynist in his retaliation over being mistreated by a woman who became his ex. (She made him move out and sleep in the car with his stuff for three days while 'her dad' was visiting, and he woke up when a cop who had almost busted him but found out the truth said, poor bastard').

Josh studied psychology big time to 'understand the attraction thing'. 

And he aced it. Now 'is able to bed at least fifteen hot, young women every month, which is twice the lifetime average of men.' 

This is his business, teaching men how to get women to chase them by going under their defenses, and not have to buy them a thing. He also lets men know not to believe the lies in the media--women don't like big muscles, 97% think bald is sexy (it's true--men with higher testosterone levels lose their hair!),  and aren't interested in money (I think a certain group of 9's and 10's ranking 'hottie' women do want money, though). Josh even says that men need to be like a fish and do what attracts female fishes when competing with another male of the same brightness of color--be the one all the other lady fish want!

Josh, I admire you! As a woman, I confess, I too have tried the 'tricks'--'How To Get A Man To Fall In Love With You'. I've 'anchored' and 'mirrored' and used all of those subliminal things back in the day.

No matter how hard you work, and I believe you have, watching the movie 'The Zookeeper' demonstrates ninety-five percent of the concepts that you suggest--sexual triggers, pre-selection, consistency, Instant dominance, the high value hello, the self-fulfilling prophecy, and reading eye movements.

Josh, you can bang any women you want, but you know what they say on the streets:

•  F--k a ho
• Respect a woman
• LOVE a Lady

How are you going to catch and keep a lady, and convince her everything is going to be like these swans with their necks in a heart of true love, get her to sleep with you, and then THROW HER OUT like GARBAGE when you are on to something new? (and what does it say about the Goddess that is beautiful in every women--i.e. your mom and your sister--when you call one a 'ho'? How terribly sad is this? 'ho's' might have had incest and not learned any better  when they were little girls. One is three of all women have sexual abuse in their past. I am one of them too. I have heard it happens to one in ten little boys, too. Every man I have ever loved, deeply loved, has been a victim of molest. It took a long time in each relationship for them to finally trust me enough to share their secret with me. I had no clue they had been hurt like me when I got involved with them in the first place!)

But let's say you are 'LOVING' your Lady-- what if she is really HOT and gives really great head?

Is that enough to make for a lasting relationship? And how are you going to both connect in Spirit?

I gaze up at you through my eyelashes, and with a soft sigh, I whisper with highest pleasure,

why not take a look at THIS? ; )

This is of the Higher Realms.

Whether you are with a lover, or single, do what David says to do each day...to keep your joy and life force bright and STRONG.

Namaste,

Reiki Doc