Ross chose this picture. He's also guiding me to share with you the lesson he used to help me understand the reason why I needed to give the photo back to Mark.
Incidentally, we are on day 89, on our countdown...
Initially when I read the letter I was in shock. Thirty years is a long time since our wedding, and I last spoke with Mark was when he invited himself to my grandfather's funeral. He drove from Northern California to Southern California, I'm not even sure where he stayed. But he sat next to me at the funeral like nothing had happened. This was December. But I had told him in late October, possibly early October os 1992 I didn't want to see him for Thanksgiving and I didn't want to be married to him any more. He took the news well and said I had every reason to feel that way...
Until he went behind my back through my Uncle and tried to get us back together again...
Right?
So anyhow, in shock, and in the O.R., I asked Ross for advice. He had me do a new spread with my Unicorn cards. Three cards. One for me, one for Mark, and one for Ross.
Me?
Strength.
I 'get' that one.
For Mark? I forget the word, but it was about thinking good thoughts, avoiding bad thoughts, and choosing what thoughts to 'entertain'. I realized to my core and I understood he's not on the same trajectory in his spiritual evolution...and he's back in a place that's significantly lower vibration. He just can't 'get it' but he's just as much God's kid as anyone else.
For Ross, he got, 'Indifference'. He is in a place so far above either Mark or me, that 'it's all good'. Bad times leave. And good times don't always last. But everything is for your enjoyment and growth. It's all encompassing, his mindset, and I know in time I will be there right beside Ross in my own spiritual growth and development.
Sometimes Spirit throws in a 'kicker', a 'freebie' to help you understand. I found it in my Cancer Horoscope in the newspaper on the break room table. Newspapers don't come every day, mind you. And it said, 'be flattered someone is trying to control you. It won't work, but take it for what it is.'
I smiled, inwardly.
Ross wants you to know when you are working with someone who is -- to put it politely-- 'on a different bandwidth than you', to know in your heart all souls respond to love, the unconditional love of Divine Creator.
Now he clears his throat.
He explains gently that there are some people who have been a long time 'running a little short' in the 'love department'. He points to his head, and makes you understand that these people are not able to think like you and me who are 'a little more nourished in the love department'. This is why he encourages you to keep your wits about you, your eyes and ears open, as well as your heart open, and work with Spirit to do what you have to do. He says, 'just like Carla in this example'.
The box is sent.
You know what the post office clerk said to him when I explained the situation? I think it's both a little bit funny and a little bit sad (that my ex would fixate on the photo for almost three decades...)
This is where the compassion comes in.
Remember you are not 'a doormat' as Ross says. You have boundaries and every right to enforce them. He says 'you wouldn't pick up a snake unless you were sure it was not a rattler, and you wouldn't go play with an alligator unless you were sure it was tame and was recently very well fed, and still, you would not make any sudden moves to upset it'.
He smiles, he's pleased with his examples, and says, 'you get the picture'.
He REALLY smiles and enjoys his little pun. I'm enjoying it too.
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Aloha and Mahalos,
Namaste,
Peace,
Ross and Carla
The Couple
