Many of us serve a dual function while we are incarnate on Earth. So, just for today, let us talk about our role as guides and resources for others. After all, this is a skill we will continue in the afterlife, so we might as well consciously reflect upon it together at this time.
We have our guides, and our own Spiritual growth. This is a given and this too will continue in the afterlife. As far as spiritual growth is concerned, we have discussed this at length in our blog posts and even provided ourselves as examples. If you go back to the beginning you will see from our sharing from the heart how much growth and progress Carla has made in her Life Plan.
Guidance, in its own right, has boundaries, and always, it is expected of us to have both respect for the person we are guiding and to allow them the freedom to grow at their own pace. Not ours! For after all, it isn't 'our lessons' they are living, but their own!
Let us take a step back to one of the precepts of Reiki.
Anne Reith, PhD, carefully explained to us that as Reiki practitioners, we are not medical providers. We don't have a license. So we must be exquisitely cautious and careful what advice we give, being ever so careful not to cross that line. Practicing medicine without a license is not only morally wrong, it is against the law. The same goes for mental health guidance too. Reiki practitioners aren't licensed in that either.
But as Reiki practitioners, we have access to information about our clients, direct access to the energy imbalances which we feel in our hands, and also, perhaps, Spirit's guidance/communication.
First and foremost, our clients are not stupid. They don't need a huge explanation. The way Anne explained it is to be vague and to hint...and this is how we honor both the law and our role as Reiki practitioners.
Here is an example: you feel a very strong sensation in a patient's breast, and based on your training and experience, you know it's cancer. You're absolutely sure of it. You simply KNOW.
What do you tell your client?
You hint.
Very delicately. You might move your hand in the aura in that general area, and disclose that you 'might feel something' but 'you're not completely sure' and 'perhaps they should get it checked out'.
Anne says that that hint is enough, and most people will remember and will follow through, if they are ready.
Let's take another example which some of you may be familiar--mediumship. There's a lot of going back and forth with Spirit when you do mediumship. But you are also actively screening and checking with the client as to what they are ready to hear. You don't tell them everything you know or here. That's part of the job of being a medium. One of the very best ones I've seen, would ask the client, 'do you accept this? does this resonate with you?' after each disclosure. They made sure the client was able to participate in the process, and that it was meaningful to them.
I think of it as being polite. And putting the interest of the client before my own interest, and letting go of the 'need to be right'.
How about astrology? Is our fate set in stone? It depends on your school of training. And in mine, we are taught that nothing is set in stone. Everything is about potentials and decisions on the part of the individual whether to take the higher qualities of the given planet or sign, or the lower expression of them. Some qualities might be harder to access, but if you work at it, you can reach them, even if your planet is intercepted in your natal chart...it's possible and nothing is impossible if you really set your mind to it.
So, you may ask, how do you get to guide?
You'd be surprised. Parents, naturally, are 'guides' of a sort for their children. In fact, they are responsible for their welfare. Mentors at work are 'guides' in the physical realm, and teach others they mentor how to succeed.
In the realm of Spirit, I've had two individuals where I was offered and accepted to be their guide. The first one, I did my best and most sincere to give advice, my very best advice, when asked for. In time, we have gone on in our lives, and I know she always knows I am there for her. She's Aquarius, independent, and on a good footing/good place now. There is another where I have accepted. Let me be clear, it's your guide who asks you if you want to be a formal guide for this person. They don't ask you. They don't usually know.
Then there are others who have looked to me as a guide, and I didn't know. In that situation I just try my best to be a good person, and to use my skills to answer questions and guide as gently and cleanly and purely working with Spirit as possible.
From what I understand, when we are guides to others, it is a 'win-win'--as they move ahead, it helps our own growth too.
Well, what if you are spiritually awake, and your life partner--in this realm--isn't as awake as you?
You made a promise to them and to God that you would be there for them in this realm. Unless there is active abuse and a serious reason to leave, it is best to stay in the relationship. You can find ways to support yourself spiritually and mentally and physically, spending time in Nature, to help make up for the imbalance.
What if you have a dream, a vision, that is like Noah--to go do something to avoid a disaster befalling you?
That's a totally difficult thing to communicate to your partner.
This is where knowing yourself and your relationship is key.
Some people, like Lot's wife, are highly enmeshed in 'society'. They can't grasp or perceive the realm of Spirit. They distrust it. They only trust what they can feel with their hands, see, hear, smell, or taste. And what the 'system' tells them.
A lot of people we interact with on a daily basis are essentially hypnotized by the mass communications. They really are.
So, how do you communicate?
You are honest, but you adjust it to what they can understand. Like the Reiki example, you give a 'hint' that you have a 'bad feeling' and take it from there. Do they accept it? Does that resonate with them? What do they think should be done about it?
With the mediumship example, it's very important not to share everything you know so as not to overwhelm them.
And with the astrology example, remember, there are potentials and possibilities, always.
When I guide, I have a clear impression of the person's path for the months to years ahead. I can't explain it, but I 'get' how they are being 'graded' and what they need to do to 'pass' and to 'excel'. I use any means possible to communicate to the person in ways they understand. Sometimes talking. Sometimes sharing. Even once, when it was super going to get the person off track, I sent my Light Body to them to warn them and get them back on track, and they actually SAW it, but didn't make the connection that it was me. I never said a word.
You don't have to be perfect at being a Guide. Inevitably it is part of our own learning process. But, in a little bit of recommendation, in a word, Ross and I encourage you to be 'cool' about it, knowing when and where to let things slide and when to speak up. Guidance is a very low-key, calm, and soothing type of relationship with the person you are guiding. You never call attention to yourself or your role. You help to lift them up, give them hope, and encourage them to find their own solutions. Even if there is an idea that might not be clearly successful for them, it is better for them to learn by their own efforts than to be told what to do and how to do it. Guides do not wish to create dependence upon them. That's not so 'cool'...
Ross
I am going to talk a little today about guiding Carla. I will be the first to admit she is a 'pistol'! High strung, intelligent, energetic, with clear inter dimensional gifts.
Carla and I are joined at the hip, metaphysically. There is a great cord which connects us that cannot be broken, as we are souls who are Twin. I am one half, she is the other. I like to admit she is my 'better half' although in truth we are equally endowed with our wonderful spiritual gifts!
And even though Carla, after our last incarnation together, was in such a 'tizzy' that she would no longer speak to me and did her very best to run away, the problem was not insurmountable.
I had at my fingertips the very best guides in the galaxy, those who were guiding me, as well as experts in this type of soul relationship 'difficulty' to advise on our particular situation.
From sending Carla flowers, cosmos flowers, in her path, and pennies--with her thinking it was Laetari and later, Gamaliel--Carla's heart was allowed to open and heal. Only when it was ready, did I show her myself as one of her Karuna Reiki guides.
Again, Carla did not make the connection.
There were many times I showed myself to her, and she understood who I was, and found it odd that I would share with her or invite her to share her opinion with me. On a soul level, she understood there must have been some connection between us otherwise I wouldn't invite her to share her viewpoint and thoughts...or show her our developments for our team.
This is simply because she wasn't ready.
In time, and up here we are able to measure such things, a plan was made and carried out, and was successful.
But (waves his finger back and forth), even after that, the flood of memories and pain at the recollection made for our relationship to be a 'little bumpy' and at times in fact 'volatile' on her part, again, because Carla is high-strung, independent, rebellious, and highly intelligent.
When you are a guide, time is on your side and in your absolute best friend in the Universe, next to Divine Creator!
And with time, your 'guide-ee' , the one you guide, will come around.
Today Carla's and my relationship is as close as ever. And we are on our way to higher and better things. Carla openly gives thanks for my guidance and care I give to her, and seeks out my input and advice just as if I were one of the living and in her immediate family.
This gives me great joy!
And one day, you, as you are guides, will understand this joy, and have full share in it, when those you are guiding, suddenly 'get it' and are on their way!
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Aloha and Mahalos,
Namaste,
Peace,
Ross and Carla
The Reiki couple who are a 'little bit more than that' and your friends, to boot!
