We are spiritual beings having a physical experience.
As physical beings, we are hardwired to seek comfort. Why? Because as mammals, we have time in the womb, where all our needs are met, and also, a long infancy, where again, under optimal conditions, our needs are met.
The term 'Netflix and Chill' is a form of going back to the womb, where, in the relaxation of the warm couch with coziness and food we can relax, let go, and get lost in our favorite movie.
It is hard being a separate being from the mom. Our parents used to provide, and now we must provide for ourselves! It is never easy. Perhaps one of the driving factors in seeking high-paying careers/activities is to have the security of being able to get those needs met with ease. Food. Shelter. Clothing. Healthcare. You get the picture.
During surgery, the anesthetized patient is back to fetal vulnerability. The fluids go in through an i.v. instead of an umbilical cord, but the concept is the same, all of the needs are met. For warmth, we place special air blankets connected to hot air pumps. For preventing pressure wounds we position carefully with special padding and devices made for this purpose, for example the 'bean bag' with vacuum to hold the patient in place.
How often do we stop to think about this unconscious pull to be back in the womb, or at least, back in the safety of our parental home as little ones?
Our society has a parental substitute--with the political system. It is easy to assume that 'they know better than us', and to trust in the decisions that are being made for us. Why? Because we are conditioned by our upbringing to trust authority. It is easier when we trust. It is soothing to feel like someone is taking care of us.
I remember in 2013 when my mom was recovering from a grueling surgery for advanced bladder cancer. It was taking a long time, which was understandable. But I noticed something that was extremely upsetting. Mom was letting the nurses feed her. She was young! Capable! and letting the nurses feed her was definitely going to slow down her getting home from the hospital!
I asked her, 'mom, I know you can feed yourself.' I had spent hours at the bedside getting her a sip of a drink then setting it down and minutes later getting her more sips. She was never satisfied. She had done that with me and with the nurses, that control, and it puzzled me?
Her answer was, having the nurses feed her gave her comfort.
Comfort.
Comfort is something we should give ourselves. And we should take comfort in our ability to care for ourselves, to take good care!
We can have our close loved ones help us out a little when the going gets rough.
It is kind of like the nasal sprays where you can use them for up to three days to open your breathing passages but after that you are going to get hooked on it!
What are healthy ways of comforting ourselves, so we are not at as much risk of seeking comfort from Those Who Do Not Have Our Best Interest At Heart, or from their addictive products, or from letting go of our freedom to think and make decisions for ourselves?
Sunshine! Spirit! Swimming in water if you know how and enjoy that. Exercise and taking care of your health. Comfort foods, even a nice soup with some bread and cheese...oh that sounds delicious. Even making plans and carrying them out can bring you comfort.
You can even wrap yourself in blankets and set a timer for chilling out on the sofa...with the understanding that you are recreating the comfort of the womb on your own in order to enjoy it on your terms.
Doing activities you enjoy, or helping others, can also bring you comfort. The healthy kind that lasts.
Do what you can to keep your own nervous system regulated and calm. That is the most comforting thing of all!
Remember your 'weak spot'. Don't let anyone take advantage of it. And when you need comfort, be sure to find it on your own terms, for limited periods of time, to protect yourself from being taken advantage by others.
If you are a healer, and others seek comfort in you, make sure that the energy exchange is not depleting of your own energy, and if you are truly a healer, healing others will energize you as well.
Ross
We up here in the Spiritual realms are often puzzled as to why life on Earth is so 'painful' according to the Lightworkers we contact. It has its moments, definitely its ups and downs so to speak. But why on Earth is there pain?
So what if someone betrays you? From our perspective, it says something more about them than it does about you. Just let go and move on.
What we do not take into account is sentiment. Carla spent the morning looking at old photographs, and the ones most meaningful to her were of things which no longer exist--Anthony playing in the fountains as a child in the Bugs Land at Disneyland California Adventure. His climbing on the CALIFORNIA letters out in front that were all candy striped for the holidays. Other people who have passed on.
What we in the spiritual realms do not understand is nostalgia. This is because we are outside of time. There is no limit to our time, as time does not exist. So, for example, if you are a human and dating someone who is wasting your time, well, that leaves less time available to find a new partner and raise a family. There is a time limit, the biological clock on Earth. The whole concept of death itself is fascinating. From the outside.As we see it people come and go, often through reincarnation as the same individual! Many people have pets who have returned to them in their lifetime and they know it.
Just know that the beauty of the human experience is while incarnate, feelings and connections and even your body are fragile. This is an illusion which is very convincing. But know that back Home, you are always YOURSELF, your loved ones and connections always exist, and nothing can take that away from you. It is forever. Not only that, but a constant source of joy.
Carla is making pancakes this morning. That is because I request her to do so. She makes a double batch and freezes some of the batter for when Anthony comes home. It is the little tasks such as this which take away from the hunger for comfort which is always pulling psychologically, and brings pleasure and a sense of a task well done.
Try to fill your time with small goals and be sure to take notice when you achieve them. Even if it is folding the clothes and putting them away after washing them.
I know the times are difficult. There are many things that are outside of your control. In fact, they are 'lessons' in which to challenge you. Be a good sport, be of good cheer, do your best, and know it is only temporary. You will be better when you return back to Home in Spirit. Until then, bring yourself joy and make a mark by helping both yourself and others through these difficult times.
That is all I have to say.
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Aloha and Mahalos,
Namaste,
Peace,
Ross and Carla
The Couple
