The Hegelian Dialect is the formula of Problem, Reaction, Solution. Use of this principle has vast implications on the future of humankind.
This baby, and the parents, are bonding.
There are neurochemicals which are generated which make the family strong and tight, and the father protective of the mother and child. This is for survival of the species. We are talking about oxytocin, vasopressin, especially for bonding. Men bond more through vasopressin--brothers in battle in war, men playing sports together, teams facing challenging problems and forging solutions--men have more vasopressin receptors and this creates bonding for them. For women, there are more receptors for oxytocin which creates strong loving feelings for her infant. Both neurotransmitters are released with breastfeeding her infant.
Another important neuro chemical is dopamine--something new and exciting will cause a rush of this through the brain. It is important in addiction. Even scrolling on the phone screen causes a dopamine release.
When everything is working correctly, and the family is loving, kind, and securely attached--the child grows up balanced and healthy.
I have been studying and working through insecure attachment styles--anxious, disorganized, and avoidant. There is a lot of information available now for free online. The more I study, the more pervasive it appears to affect us. Divorce rates are high. Dating is a total nightmare--so many players out there. Especially now that people are meeting through services online. And that men are charged way more to get their matches than women on some platforms, I think perhaps Hinge but I could be wrong.
From what I understand, many relationships with unhealed attachment styles are doomed. Especially because something that feels 'familiar' from a dysfunctional family upbringing leads to attraction. Toxic begets toxic, so to speak.
Furthermore, pornography, substance abuse, infidelity/sexual promiscuity keep the dopamine surges rolling--even sports and entertainment and music cause it. Pleasure, hedonism, not that it is bad but it can make people deficient in the vasopressin and oxytocin and not able to form healthy relationships.
Our society is set up to make families fail.
People who 'build' our world as we know it, are being led by a spiritual darkness which is at total war against all that is right and just. They poison the land, they poison our bodies, and furthermore they are waging war on our hearts, minds and souls...
What is there to do?
There are ways to heal. You can hire coaches and work through things, assuming accountability for them. But even this costs money. And time.
There have been people who have turned their life around. I have seen a woman who had a terrible addiction to cocaine who had healed from doing Buddhist chanting every day. Others have gone the Christian route, being 'saved' and accepting Jesus as their Lord and Savior. You see, when we turn to the Light of Heaven, and truly connect, we form a new, healthy (in most cases, religious trauma being the exception) attachment. Through daily practice we re-wire our brain neurotransmitter circuits. Just like with secure and insecure attachments, the insecure in healthy relationships become secure.
There is nothing healthier for us than Source, Divine Creator, Divine Mother and Divine Father.
Life on Earth is not easy. There are too many traumas to count we must endure. Everything leaves scars.
Remember what Pastor Schuller from the Crystal Cathedral once said, 'Turn your Scars into Stars!'
Have hope.
Keep going. You've got this.
Ross
This is another reason why people also love their pets. There is attachment and bonding through unconditional love.
Remember to set aside uninterrupted time in your day, even for a few minutes, and seek Unconditional Love from Source. Let your guides and angels and deceased loved ones strengthen you. Allow yourself to relax and just exist.
Receive.
Receive all that is good, all that is healing, and all that is your Divine Birthright as a child of Creator.
You ARE LOVE INCARNATE!
Or as Carla says, 'you are Love that walks around on two feet!' (or assisted devices as Carla once needed when she hurt her knee and could not walk...)
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Aloha and Mahalos,
Namaste,
Peace,
Ross and Carla
The Duo
