We are one.
So many prophets and wise ones have told us this: although we may appear separate, we are all from the same Source, we are One.
Even Hope Johnson says that everything we see and experience we are 'making it all up' for 'our learning about ourselves'. For example, your partner may be showing you things you need to know about yourself when you are getting upset with them.
Attachment Theory has exploded on the internet. The basic idea is that about half of the people 'out there' are what is called 'secure attachers'--they grew up with the right support at an early age and are emotionally 'healthy'. Then there are 'insecure attachers' who tend to polarize and attract one another--anxious attachers and avoidant ones. There is also a subset of 'avoidant' called 'disorganized' or 'fearful' attachers--these are individuals who have seen some pretty bad stuff growing up, for example an explosive parent with anger management issues. Fearful avoidant have both anxious and avoidant tendencies, like a core of avoidant wrapped in a layer of anxious.
Attachment heavily influences reproduction. These scars are subconscious and get played out in intimate relationships as the psyche tries to heal by reproducing the experiences of the past and 'come out on top'. It causes a lot of pain and anguish, especially in the partners who have been 'discarded' by an avoidant attacher.
Attachment wounds can heal. And we can change our attachment styles. Sometimes secure attachers will turn anxious when paired up with a severe avoidant. And even avoidant (both types!) and anxious can heal and become more secure if they really work on it. Jeff Brown has a new course out, precisely on this way of healing.
What I can tell you as the child of a mother who grew up in the war and displayed narcissistic tendencies, who was herself the child of a mother who had been severely abused physically, mentally and emotionally...and as the child of a father who also displayed narcissistic tendencies, who was the son of a mother who had experienced trauma with her mother dying from tuberculosis when she was four (she saw the undertaker jerk the body really fast into the carrying away bag)...this stuff is intergenerational.
Traumatized people are easy to be controlled.
There are experts in the power structure behind the scenes of how the world is run, who inflict trauma systematically with the purpose of shattering the core personality of the individual who is raised up in the system. Like a computer they layer trauma upon trauma to create personalities in the same way a pearl farmer places irritants inside the oyster to produce the pearl.
Svali, is but one of the many survivors who have escaped the system.
The only way I knew at all I had any avoidant tendencies was the 'ick' I felt when people got emotional on me. And how I did not understand or process emotions as a valid way of expression compared to factual, 'information' type communication. I knew my life was bad/scary growing up. And I thought I had done my best to get through it. I had friends. I was good at work. But my private life? Very unhappy.
Now that I have been working on things, I am learning that having feelings is a very important part of being human. Slowly I work on identifying and naming my feelings throughout the day.
Was there a purpose, a Divine Purpose for my suffering? I would like to think yes there was. How could I see through the lies in our Society, and dig through really disturbing information to learn the truth of how 'all the world is a stage?' I was not attached to a partner, or to a government, or even to what society said I must be.
Nothing is ever wasted. Experiences are important. Following our individual life path is priceless!
There is one abandonment wound that persists, no matter how much you work on it, because of the amnesia we are given upon coming to live on Earth. It is Spiritual. I am hoping that the logical next step after most of society awakens to the problem of the attachment wound, and healing it--as you see with the experts making courses and things--is a spiritual revival. The kind like was written in the Bible on the end times. How in response to 'certain circumstances' (the A.C. wiping out Abrahamic religions)--the Holy Spirit becomes daringly alive and present through a large number of people!
Remember your attachment wounds.
Honor them.
Honor yourself.
Seek healing.
May I suggest The Unity Prayer? By Father James Blount. You can look it up. If there are links here this platform tends to suppress the posts and unpublishes them.
It really works!
My days have been more joyful since I have started saying this prayer and modifying it to include whatever part of me I wish to be in Unity with Our Lord.
It feels good.
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Aloha and Mahalos,
Namaste,
Peace,
Ross and Carla
The Couple
