There are some people in our family who exaggerate. There are others who deceive. There are some who lie to your face.
I'm going to see one of them today.
This is the one that sent me to therapy.
They are still 'lying' to this day.
My therapist described the situation as:
Truth is a very 'stretchy' thing--some people stretch it a lot more than others.
This family member is like the polar opposite to Don Miguel Ruiz's first of the Four Agreements:
Be Impeccable With Your Word.
Deception is going to be one of the 'hot new topics' in the coming weeks and months. There are lies on top of lies out there in society as we know it. Great Big 'Whoppers' of untruths.
All I have to say about this is Family is still Family.
You love them.
You acknowledge those with 'Stretchy Truth Tendencies' for what they are, don't dwell on it, furthermore, don't set yourself up for disappointment from it, and move on.
There is a sense of 'outrage' and 'desire to set them straight' that rushes over us like a wave of emotion once we discover we have been fooled; that someone respected us so little that they would try to pull the wool over our eyes and smile at us while doing it!!!
This is counterproductive to react in kind.
I didn't say it doesn't feel simply horrible to be tricked.
It does.
But the 'Liars' are sick and not very high vibration. They are to be pitied, for they are locked in a world that is not the way it is meant to be--one of very dense thoughts and feelings, a 'me versus you' mentality, a survival mode of sorts.
You can't fix that. Not until their Vibration goes up. And the only way they are ever--and I mean ever!--going to 'wake up' is if your Vibration is the 'more adult' of the two.
I don't care if it is your elder who is lying to you--the one who is the most Spiritually Advanced is the only one who is capable to hold the Vibration UP and not let it drop with those emotions and behaviors that trigger them.
Holidays are a very difficult time of year for those who have experienced dysfunction in the family unit. This is just about everyone, basically.
Be the bigger person.
I ask of you this.
Be the Bigger Person and KNOW that Love Is The Solution For Everything.
Don't sink to their level of Vibration. Hold your own. Be civil, Be polite. Be LOVE in everything you do, even if it is not reciprocated.
Aloha and Mahalos,
Namaste,
Reiki Doc