Willingness to Make Adjustments

 

Feeling what we feel and acknowledging it is the first step when it comes to healing the deep, inner work that is necessary to lighten our being.

The next step is a willingness to change. How can that be? Well, part of it might be for some people, to accept what is, up to the point of Byron Katie's extreme perspective on 'Turn It Around'. Paraphrased, when you catch yourself in a mental dialogue loop of 'it shouldn't be this way!' Byron Katie embraces the opposite--'it SHOULD be this way!'  This helps to take the ego out of the driver's seat.

I write when interesting things happen in my growth and development. And what was interesting was a subtle awareness shift once I was able to let go. I do not like being alone. I have felt alone my entire life. And even with my family of origin, being misunderstood made me feel more alone than ever. My deepest longing when I was four was for a sister, someone like me, someone to understand...

Over time that longing was replaced by wanting a partner. A good one.

The only thing was, I didn't know how. And two divorces and a terrible breakup with a baby daddy later, I understand intellectually how I am a fearful attachment 'attacher'. Disorganized is another name for it. 

The shift was when I realized yesterday, that I am going to need a lot of alone time and space to heal from all of my experiences. They have been one right after the other up until the father of our son left me during pregnancy...and the custody raked me over the coals with my heart. 

I even experienced something new--anger! Anger at my life circumstances (when it comes to partnership). Anger at God. Anger at Ross. Anger at everything, just spitting angry and upset that these lessons totally SUCK and I wish I had never had to experience them!

Anger is healthy. When one is able to emotionally regulate themselves, anger is a way of telling you an important message. In this case, I have not had my needs met for ages, because I never learned how to request them and walk away from those who are not able to even negotiate them with me!

So, in a short span of time, my perspective has changed from wanting someone to 'make it better'--to just wanting to be alone and have the time and space to heal. I did not fight it. I had been telling myself to accept what is as I navigate being an empty nester. Since day one the nest emptied. 

You are going to be surprised at how your perspectives can shift! They can move quite suddenly! And it is all for the highest good.

I learned this weekend of something sad. Our friend John Smallman, of the John Smallman's Blog (Saul) and Jesus through John, has not been in good health. His daughter posted a request for prayers for him

Much has changed over the last fifteen years in the spiritual community. John has been a hard-working, contributing member. His messages have helped me so much. 

Remember him. 

Just like we remember with love the others--Svali, Kerth Barker, Cathy O'Brien, Tex E Marrs, The Black Child on YouTube, Really Graceful, Kauilapele, Alexandra Meadors, Sheldan Nidle, Marc Gamma, Isabel Henn, Cobra (his Red Pill really was a game changer back in the day), Andy Bojarski, our own circle of soul family, Jennifer Farley, Source Messages, Sark, Anne Reith, Tim Braun...and Linda Dunn who helped immensely and tirelessly with the original Ross and Carla bracelets...as well as Ann Johnson who also helped with many bracelet drives. Dolores Cannon. A Call for Glitter Kittens (you know who). So many sending love daily out and leading the way in ways only they can do.

Such incredible people! I have been lucky to know. And to be guided by them. 

We have a lot of common ground behind us. Be sure to spend some time reflecting on the sacrifices and gift of soul from these incredible Light Workers!

Ross

Everything is happening for the best. I want you to remember this! Everything truly IS happening for the best. 

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Aloha and Mahalos,

Namaste,

Peace,

Ross and Carla

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Changing Your Attitude to Change

 

I used to hate change.

Viscerally just stress and fight the inevitable.

Now with the Autumn season, and many more years under my experience, I am learning to adapt gracefully when in truth there is no other option available to me than to accept and allow.

Just for today, let's focus on change. 

Even here, there's a change. I used to blog daily. Now people don't read blogs like they used to, they enjoy TikTok videos. The platform Blogspot is still awesome! Over the years it has changed too. I have had to adapt and find work-arounds to certain features. 

A big change is taking a new level in being a mom--an anticipated one, but still, it is awful quiet around here. On the one hand, it is freeing. And considering I fell into motherhood quite by accident, this is kind of a 'fresh start' once again. This time I have Reiki training, all the psychic development courses, all the personal development, even the understanding of attachment styles to help. It is my hope that we have been able to bring you along on your journey as well, along with us.

It is so easy to numb your feelings out. And to just work and continue your routine. Today, it took me asking two separate people--trained ones--to make sure my habit of canceling exercise classes taught by the person who was teaching class the day I got hurt in class--was not being a baby. Some people are more knowledgeable than others, especially for someone my age and with my injuries. It just makes sense to let that one be and not risk it. I am not used to feeling my feelings and acting upon them, not for me, in my personal life. Professionally, sure! That's different. 

There's lots of changes ahead. It depends on who you listen to, really. Cobra says that even if nothing more is done by the Light workers the framework of the dark has been damaged beyond repair and will implode in seven years. Ben Fulford says that lots is going on behind the scenes especially with international finances. The book of Revelation says that we are moving right along with the End Times. Even with the elections in the United States, anything can happen! Will it be like 2020 or like 2016 this time? Either way large groups of people are going to be extremely upset. 

I see change here. I see businesses closing in my neighborhood. The economy is tough. Really, really tight for the majority of the people. Are we at 'a loaf of bread will buy a bag of gold?'  Not yet. But some company sent a letter saying to go with them for forty dollars a month to have a 'land line' even after California gets rid of the 'land line' telephone system. My house doesn't even have access to the old 'land line' networks. Our 'land line' is connected to the internet. And the new business works with a box you plug into a plug and then your wireless phones connect to it. The only way it will stay 'working' when the internet is 'down' is for the battery in the system. 

I miss land lines.

I miss the security of knowing they would be always working in an emergency.

I miss SoupPlantation restaurant. 

I miss BigLots who is going out of business.

Times change. 

We are not Superman, who was able to turn back time.

Once we grasp that everything is happening for our benefit, to help us raise our awareness and to grow as souls, then change becomes less scary. 

It helps me to accept that everything was written into our pre-birth contracts. Even the end of life. Between those two endpoints, it doesn't hurt to ask for what we want from Spirit. And to work along those lines to gain skills and knowledge. 

Keep in the game. Just let your your grip on the outcome loosen a little. You will be glad you did.

Ross agrees with this message.

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Aloha and Mahalos,

Namaste,

Peace,

Ross and Carla

The Twins 

Healing on a Continuum

 

Good morning!

It has been a while.

I have been busy doing my inner work.

Here are some of the fruits of this work. It's taken a long time to reach these conclusions. Keep in mind I was always like one hundred five to one hundred thirty pounds for most of my young adult life. Now for the last three to five years I have struggled to get my weight under two hundred pounds. I am strong and healthy, with good endurance, because I work out. Most recently, after all this effort, a vacation brought on weight with a vengeance I have never seen before! It was scary.

Number one:  Although it would be nice to be thin, it is possible to use fashion to look your best at whatever weight you are. Making an effort is noticeable by others. And it boosts the confidence too.

Number two: Older people who are in my old 'low weight' range look kind of bony and thin, some of them, when I examine my patients. It is muscle and fitness that affects the look of 'health', not weight alone. 

Number three:  When you are looking for healing it will arrive. I read this book with interest:  Why Does He Do That? Inside the minds of angry and controlling men...Wow. Now I understand why my first husband who was sweet and kind turned mean once his parents took him aside and told him to 'put his foot down with me'. We were no longer equals at that point. I did not understand what had taken over him. And I could feel the tension between explosive outbursts of anger building over days and weeks. I would trigger the fight on my own terms instead of wait for it to surprise me. Most important is that this is a separate behavior from addiction. It is difficult to cure. There are positive consequences to the abuser for being angry and controlling people. They 'justify' why they do what they do, and never realize how horrible it makes others feel. Long story short, thanks to this book, I understand the techniques that were used against me, I understand why I did the right thing to leave, and I understand what to look for to avoid being around this kind of person. It also helps me understand why a dear friend of mine is seeking divorce after being suicidal and attempting it...the abuse she endured was behind closed doors. Nobody, not even me, realized the extent of her suffering. It took ten months of therapy for five hours a day to help her recover. With this knowledge from the book--which is a difficult read, painful, if you have been abused--but empowering nontheless--we can not condone abusive men in their 'game'. We can identify it as a community and withdraw support to discourage such actions.

Number four:  God doesn't want me to quit. I am a simple soul. I never thought I would make it past sixteen, seriously. I was ready to settle down for a quiet life with husband number one. That didn't happen. I was ready to settle down as a doctor...then I discovered Reiki. I was ready to just be a mom and that's it...but now my nest is going to be emptier again. I get this feeling that God isn't through with me yet. There's more to do, more life to be lived, and some very important lessons heading my way. 

Number five:  Goals are important. But connections are often overlooked. They actually have more long-term influence on our lives. Learn to appreciate the blessings our connections and community have to give to us.

Spiritually, things have been quiet. That's because I have been needing to focus on my lessons at this time. 

I will relax and accept and allow what lessons and messages from Spirit arrive next.

Oh!

Ross wants me to share about football. You know I enjoy baseball. Basically the season is over for my team, which is placing last and the second-worst team in all of the sport. But football, well, my son has been teaching me about the game. American football, not soccer. It started because I was embarrassed to be in the OR when the topic being discussed was football and I could not have anything to say. I did not understand the conversation. We have been working on games, the Red Zone, and talk sports almost every day. But just this week, he showed me the Alt 22 tapes. The are the films of the plays, each play of the game, without sound, from two different angles. You can watch them from any game, just like the coaches and players do through the week. I learned the strategy--the shotgun, the pistol, the back-something, the run play, the pass, as well as the defense against it. It is an art, really. A battle art. To design the plays, as well as the defensive plays. I had no idea it was so organized, that there were so many minds working together to create what you see on the field. It is not random, whatsoever. Do I have a favorite team? No. But I appreciate my son helping me learn about the sport.

Ross says to all of us, 'just have a good time' as we go about our days.

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Aloha and Mahalos,

Namaste,

Peace,

Ross and Carla

The Couple

The Internal Guidance System

 

Today is a holiday in the United States. Before when I worked in the main Operating Room I did not always get this holiday off. When I did, I usually traveled and made the most of my time away from work to enjoy my family.

This morning, my son was fast asleep, and we were at home. Today is unplanned. This is to avoid crowds and traffic. 

I was able to do something I have not done in a long time. I was able to go outside, relax, and not pressure myself to do anything. 

This is when Spirit guided me through a very fast meditation, one I believe is important to share, especially in this day and age of digital online distractions. It is very simple. You check in and see how you feel about a variety of things, both the immediate circle of your friends, family, and work...and for the bigger things. For me, I reviewed current politics and recent events. I was surprised to experience my gut reaction which is different from thinking about each topic. I was like, 'gosh I really feel that way about that!'

You see, algorithms are designed to give us what we want--what resonates with us--so imperceptibly that we are bombarded with ads and posts designed to get us to engage with it.

I heard just this week of a nurse who was no longer permitted to work because her phone addiction was getting in the way of patient care.

We believe we are in charge of our own thoughts when we scroll. But the psychological manipulation is highly effective. You can't put your finger on it. But it reinforces our perception of our place in the world.

Disengage during your meditation. Even for five minutes. 

Dig deep for the real YOU. The one that is not connected to the internet. 

Get in touch with your heart. 

This is what makes us human, our hearts.

Our ability to feel.

You do not need to decide to do anything based on your feelings. That is not the purpose of this exercise. Just get a general idea of what aligns with your heart. What you like. What you do not like. And take a mental note of how strong those feelings are.  You will be like, 'wow that really bothers me! Hmmm.'

There is so much in our world we have to just adapt to, suck it up, and live with it. Be sure to keep this from making you turn numb to it. Get away from the distractions for five, ten minutes. And check in with your internal guidance system. 

You want to make the most of your time on earth. 

One of the big things that came through, is realizing how much I am loved and taken care of by The Universe. It is a very wonderful thing.

Ross

Carla has a difficult chore to do. She must not delay it further. She is following my request on the meditation and sharing it with our fantastic readers.

How often to do this meditation?

Daily is best. Keep it short. But do it to keep you aware of your perceptions in the world which are uniquely your own.

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Aloha and mahalos,

Namaste,

Peace,

Ross and Carla

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